The One Thing Moms Need

Parenting advice is everywhere. I can’t be online for ten minutes without seeing lists upon lists upon lists of what I must do, or should never say, or can’t live without.  No one ever considers the possibility that what worked for them might not work for me. It’s never here are 5 things I’m glad I did, it’s 5 things you must do before having a baby.

Don’t get me wrong, a lot of these posts have great suggestions. And I understand the desire for a catchy title that will pull in a lot of views. But I can’t help but feel irritated when I read something on 7 things to never say to new moms that I actually enjoyed hearing.  I once stumbled upon a blog where a mother cautioned her readers to “Never say ‘let me know if there’s anything I can do to help’” because a new mom isn’t going to have time to delegate. OK, so there’s some truth to that. But I loved knowing that so many of my friends were willing to make themselves available to me. I didn’t actually need anything from them, I just liked knowing they were there should something come up. I may be alone in that feeling, and I don’t expect anyone to intuit how I feel about something, but that’s the point. These lists suggest that there’s only one right way to experience these life events and it’s just not so. Read More

Vaccinations: The Exception to My Rule

When I made the decision to start a practice working with new moms, I was very clear about my underlying philosophy. I wanted to provide the kind of support that empowered women in their role as mothers. I wanted to make it clear to parents that there are many different ways to do this job well. Breastmilk or formula, nanny or daycare, working out of the house or staying at home – the list of choices that parents make on a daily basis is unending. It can feel overwhelming to make these decisions, particularly when we are weighed down by the fear of making the wrong one. Read More

Welcome!

Hi there, and welcome to tamarbarbash.com!

I’m so glad you found your way here. Whether you are pregnant, thinking about becoming pregnant, or you just recently became a parent, I’m thrilled for the opportunity to get to know you and help make your journey into parenthood a little easier.

About two and a half years ago I became a mother and I was both shocked and overwhelmed at how much of the experience I was unprepared for. I had read the books and taken the classes and spoken to friends and family, and still, I felt completely surprised by a lot of the challenges I faced.

As I made my way through those early days and weeks, I realized that one of the biggest problems I was having was that there didn’t seem to be an accepted way to express a lot of what I was feeling. It felt as though I was supposed to smile and gush and tell everyone that I was loving every minute. But, it just didn’t feel right.

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